Recently, there have been (oddly enough) some bizarre love triangles in my life, that involve myself as a person... but not myself (as in my own heart... well, I am involved with someone and VERY happy about it... but he is not part of the situation I'm referring to). After meeting the couple, I started to play some of these situations out in my head. It seems like so many people (people I know) are just so desperate for a love like this that they look for love in all the wrong places and wrong reasons... or they stay with someone because they think they are "happy" or they feel like they "have to" and are just plain scared of being alone. So, I started to brainstorm... because I do need to vent a little... and this is my reasoning why people end up in unhappy relationships:
1.) "I don't want to have to start over again" -- to me this spells out "Lazy". Granted, there can indeed be some insecurity issues here, but really... it's all about laziness. Even if the relationship falls short of expectations, it's often just way too comfortable, and harder to leave. Truth be told, staying in stale and faded relationships can literally turn into being a matter of continuing to wake up doing the exact same thing that went on yesterday, and fighting about the exact same thing you fought about last week rather than taking action.... that right there, is true procrastination. Ask yourself, do you want to be happy?
2.) You like what they "Represent". -- this right here folks, is one of the most common aspects of a failed relationship. I have seen this happen to so many people, so many close friends. If you are having a hard time finding your perfect "type" of person... you may not know yourself. One of the best ways to start improving your life and any situation you’re in – whether it’s a relationship with a man/woman or any other potentially great and important situation – is to find amazing resources and information that will help you quickly GROW and LEARN. After getting to know yourself, you will be more aware as to what kind of person you could see yourself with and not what they represent. Take a mini vacation to yourself, give your heart a break and let your spirit lead the way.
3.) Filling the "emptiness"-- If you are staying in a relationship or looking for a relationship to ease the emptiness inside you, the harsh reality is that no relationship is ever going to completely fill you up. Once the easy emotional connection and satisfaction of honeymoon love wears off, you could find that you're not filled up after everything you've been through and soon your partner won't be good enough for you or possibly feel good enough. This void or empty spot is the very thing that makes you so vulnerable to the wrong relationships in the first place. It will lead you to get involved not because a man/woman or relationship is right for you, but because you are driven to fill the "emptiness". Patience truly is a virtue, and if you wait... good things will come.
There's probably 600 more reasons I could come up with but for now these are the ones that stick out in my head the most. If you are in a relationship, or looking for the perfect relationship... or want the compassionate love like the couple I referred to, take a step out of your box.... it may be hard, but it's not the end of the world and if you stay positive... you will find happiness.
Ta ta for now.